Overcoming the Fear of Rejection

She’s sitting at a table near you at lunch. You want to do anything; to say anything! She leaves and you miss your chance again.

Fear of rejection is a very common phobia. It strikes millions of people in all areas of life: relationships, career, hobbies. Just think of what could be accomplished if we didn’t fear rejection!

What can I do to overcome my fear?

1. It Only Lasts a Moment

How do we overcome this fear? Try this trick. Remember the scent of cinnamon. Can’t recall it? That is because scent is like pain–impossible to physically remember after it is gone. Pain only lasts for a moment and then it is gone. Keeping this in mind will help you overcome your fear. Knowing that the pain will only last a brief second is one way to help you overcome your fear. One day, you will be able to look back at the time when you asked that cheerleader out and laugh about it. Rejection isn’t as bad as we make it!

2. It Becomes Easier Over Time

Asking people out becomes easier over time. The more you do it, the more natural it becomes and the less fear you’ll have. Like everything else in life it just takes practice. Do you remember your very first day of school? Or even your first day of college? Do you remember how scared you were? Over time, it became easier, as time went on, it became second nature. Asking people out, starting conversations, and introducing yourself becomes easy with enough repetition.

3. It is Exhilarating

Asking someone out when you are nervous or afraid pushes your limits. It requires you to step beyond your comfort zone. No matter the results, you can feel good about yourself for not backing down. Facing the fear of rejection squarely without giving in means never having to say “What if…”